Hello there! I haven’t seen you in awhile. How have you been?
Me? I’ve been taking on more and more responsibility at work, writing my butt off, and trying to balance everything without giving myself a stress-induced migraine every day.
I’ve only been partially successful on the balance bit, and mostly unsuccessful in the migraine arena. In fact, I have a migraine right now.
And a lot of the stress from struggling to find that balance and do the things that are important to me is self-imposed.
My boss isn’t breathing down my neck. She has faith in my work and is happy with my performance. I’m still writing, albeit at a slow pace. But I’m putting in the time and the effort, and I’m seeing the results of that. And I’m getting my first veggie garden in my new house up and running, cooking dinner most nights, and spending time with family, friends, and my dogs.
These are all great things. But I have that voice in my head telling me that it’s not enough. That I need to do more. I am my own worst critic, and my own worst stressor.
My current mix of meds are working better than anything has in the past, but they aren’t perfect and they never will be.
I need to regularly assess my commitments and responsibilities and adjust them as necessary to get rid of anything that drains my emotional and mental gas tank. It’s been awhile since my last assessment, and I’m feeling the negative effects of it.
And that’s one reason I haven’t updated in so long–I’ve been too busy freaking out about nothing. NOTHING.
That means I’m long overdue for a self-care assessment. For each stressor in my life, I like to ask the following questions:
- Why is this thing stressing me out? Is it an actual stressors or am I making it out to be worse than it is?
- Either way, is this something that’s important to me? Does it align with my values and goals?
If the answer to the second question is “No,” I know I need to cut it so I can spend more time doing the things that ARE important to me.
If it’s an actual stressor–like money–then I know I probably need to come up with a plan to address it or take care of it. If it’s something I’m freaking out about for no reason, I know I need to take a step back and breath deeply for a few minutes to remind myself that I’m not dealing with life and death here.
What about you? Do you do stress yourself out? How do you handle it?